A good friend can be a lifesaver, particularly when your life is literally in need of saving. But in those critical times, even the most well-meaning can do more damage than good.
Ms. Magazine co-founder and author Letty Cottin Pogrebin found that out four years ago when she was “blindsided” with a breast cancer diagnosis.
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THREE WAYS TO HELP
Letty Cottin Pogrebin says that friends of people who are sick should have three basic questions that will establish an honest dialogue:
1) Tell me what’s helpful and what’s not.
2) Tell me when you want to be alone.
3) Tell me what to bring and when to leave.