Clean your digital house in 2018: It's time to unfriend people


It’s a new year, so for those of you who broke a sweat with end-of-the-year tidying but forgot to sort through your baggage to really clean house, this message is for you. 

To be direct, for those of you who cleaned your physical house but not your digital one for 2018, this message is for you.

Something called Unfriend Day was dubbed a holiday in 2014 when Jimmy Kimmel challenged social media platforms like Facebook for using the term “friend” so loosely, making a lot of people forget what a friend actually is. 

And while the holiday won’t be celebrated again until November, we shouldn’t go the next ten months without tightening our online circle. 

Let’s clean up our digital collection of “friends.”

Let’s get rid of dead weight. 

What more opportune time than the beginning of a new year?

Consider this: What and who we surround ourselves with determines the quality and direction of our lives, so we should unfriend and unfollow people often. Not just on a holiday or when we’re in our feelings.

Why? Digital friends are just as influential to us as our real-life friends, if not more. Thanks, Technology.  

People spend 50 minutes on average (per day) on Facebook and its suite of apps such as Instagram and Messenger, according to Business Insider. That’s up 10 minutes from two years ago and it keeps increasing.

Fifty minutes doesn’t sound too bad considering there are 24 hours in a day, right? Wrong. 

How many times do we open Facebook on our desktop at work or tap the app while we’re on our phone in one day? Mhm. 

It’s like the famous quote, “We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with.” 

Who we friend on Facebook, follow on Instagram and tolerate on Twitter matters the same way who we spend our weekends with does.

If we find ourselves spending most of our free time with someone who is always complaining about how messed up life is or how broken they are, our tolerance of that person will begin to drain us.  

Sure, sometimes the people in our circle have issues they’re dealing with temporarily and we support them through that. Most times, though, people are just triflin’ or miserable by default. It’s tiring. 

So don’t let the sight of nasty images or digestion of negative statuses bring you down. 

Unfriend two people you wish did not appear on your timeline. Yes, even cousin Jessica because facts are: You still love her and she will live. 

Doing this will make getting on Facebook a bit less heavy. You’ll be going there to get what you need (a laugh, inspiration or a piece of information) and protecting yourself from bullcrap.  

Unfriend people every time you feel like the messages you’re feeding your mind are unhealthy to where you are in your life in the exact moment you feel that way. 

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Seems cruel, right? You can’t just be unfollowing and unfriending people. They’ll notice! 

Answering “why did you unfriend me?” sounds like death. So awkward.  

But reality check: Befriending someone online is not a lifelong commitment and you can do what you want based on the space that you’re in. 

It’s like rearranging an apartment or cleaning out a closet. Doesn’t it feel so good afterward?

Consider unfriending a diet of the mind or an effort to eliminate what’s not feeding your soul.

Thank me later. 


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